Part One- Learning What to Expect

1 Keep the situation to yourself. – It is important to keep the relationship as much of a secret as possible. Ideally, only you and your partner should know about the relationship. Your closest friend may find out about it, but try to avoid telling anyone else about your status as a side chick. Do not tag your partner on social media, and do not invite the person to holiday gatherings or vacations.

2 Expect plans to change. – Understand that your partner has a significant other that they have to put first. It is likely that your partner will go to great lengths to keep their partner from finding out about you, so expect plans to change at the spur of the moment. You might have plans for dinner, but your partner may cancel at the last minute if their significant other needs them.

3 Don’t ask about where the relationship is going. – Your partner has not left their significant other for a reason. There could be many reason for this. For example, your partner may have built a life with their partner that would be difficult to get out of. Or, your partner wants a future with their significant other and just wants to be with you for a fun and relaxing time. Avoid asking about where the relationship is going. You may be disappointed with the answer.

4 Focus on your time with your partner. – Try not to think about the past or future. Focus on the present. Enjoy the time you have with your partner. When you are apart, don’t think about or ask what is going on with them.

5 Avoid falling in love. – It is completely natural to develop feelings for someone that you are having a romantic relationship with. Falling in love, however, will likely end up in heartache. Try to keep your feelings light, even if it seems difficult to do. Feelings can’t be controlled, but make an effort to not fully invest in the relationship.

Flip to the next page to discover what Part II – how to act like the perfect side chick – entails…