A common saying is that experience is the best teacher, and it is a truism that has survived through the ages. When something burns you, you are less likely to approach it the same way the second time round.
Ghanaian actress Joselyn Dumas ascribes to this saying, revealing that she is more cautious in her dating life these days because she doesn’t want to repeat the mistakes which led her to become a divorced mum.
The actress was speaking with guests on her reality talk program ‘Keeping it Real with Joselyn Dumas’, aired over the weekend on GhOne Tv.
A mother of one, Joselyn is separated from the father of her child. And according to her, she’s not willing to go through a similar experience, having learned from the first one.
“Sometimes when I’m dating and it gets serious I withdraw, because I don’t want to make the same mistakes I made, I don’t want to go through another divorce,”. Dumas revealed.
“I wanna do it and do it right.”
Dumas also dished out advice about how to cope with troubles in life by having one or two confidantes whom you can lay your troubles on.
Uniquely, the ‘Potato Potahto’ star said she has this habit of forgetting her troubles once she cries out about them to her comforting shoulder.
“…You need to surround yourself with positive influences, with positive minded people. I have a friend that I always call when I’m going through my lowest lows… When I talk about things and I break down… talking about things and breaking down is where I gather my strength and I forget.” she said.
“I would talk about it, I would cry, I will yell…you find that person who keeps you grounded.
“We all have conversations with God, I do, everyday ..[but] it’s very important to have that physical connection. For me, once I do talk about it, I forget.” she said.
Guest panellist Lawrencia Owusu, on the same show, also revealed the painful story of how her father threw her out of his house, during winter time in New York City, because she divorced the man he had chosen for her to marry.
‘Keeping it Real with Joselyn Dumas’ is the brainchild of the Ghanaian actress and veteran director Shirley Frimpong Manso. It airs every Saturday at 8:30pm on GhOne Tv.