How does one choose a best friend? It’s not a question you would normally sit down and think about but it’s a very interesting mind game if you do decide to try.
Ghanaian actress and on air personality Joselyn Dumas has listed her requirements for choosing her girlfriends and its a simple list of only two attributes.
The friend has to be as non judgemental as Dumas herself is and has to have ‘a crazy mind’, to make everyday an adventure full of endless possibilities.
Dumas revealed this over the weekend on her reality talk show ‘Keeping it Real’.
Dizfa Gray and Jane Awoonor were the guests on the weekly show to discuss friendship among women and all its attendant complications.
As the discussion turned to what to look out for in a best friend, the former host of ‘The One Show’ chimed in with her ‘two cents’ on the issue.
“For me it has to be somebody who won’t judge me. I don’t like to be judged because I don’t judge – I mean my mum always says the fact you don’t do something doesn’t mean somebody would not do it to you — but if you don’t judge me you’re my homegirl forever and ever.” Dumas said.
“We have a lot of people who are very judgemental, both male and female, these days. So for me, the ultimate thing is somebody who’s not going to judge me.”
She added that the second most crucial attribute she looks out for, is somebody who has a crazy mind and helps make life interesting day in and day out.
“The person has to have a crazy mind, it’s very important. I think when you have a crazy mind the possibilities are endless, it’s like an onion, you keep peeling and you keep peeling and you’re revealing something new everyday. And I’m still trying to find myself so when you have a very crazy mind we can do that together.”
Her guests Dzifa and Jane listed similar attributes, with the latter prioritizing a positive personality above everything else and the former looking for an honest and fun loving friend.
The ‘crazy’ conversation encompassed all things female, discussing how to deal with informing a dear friend their spouse is cheating on them, what to do if your friend’s partner hits on you and even veering to, how do you respond to a request for a threesome?
‘Keeping it Real with Joselyn Dumas’ is a reality chat show created by the actress and aired on GhOne TV every Saturday at 8:30pm. It is produced by Dumas and Shirley Frimpong Manso, and features the actress and two female panelists discussing the tough questions about being a lady in a man’s world.
Watch Saturday’s episode below…