CEO of Kofas Media, Kofi Asamoah, stirred up a social media debate over money in relationships when he opined in a viral video that men need money to be able to attract the kind of women we often term as ‘marriage materials’.
In the video, Kofas argued that it’s the broke men who often shout that no woman is a marriage material, asserting that if those broke men had money they would find a woman willing to transform herself into the so-called marriage material for them to marry.
Addressing the controversy the video has stirred up, GhanaCelebrities.Com‘s Founding Editor Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri has thrown his weight behind Kofas’ assertions.
According to Chris-Vincent, every relationship needs money to thrive since it’s money which is able to meet most needs and every woman has needs. Therefore, it’s quite ‘oxymoronic’ to believe a relationship can make it solely on the basis of the ‘fluid concept of love’.
Using personal experience to illustrate his point, Chris-Vincent also argued thatwhilst love is important in a relationship, money is crucial as well and a man unable to provide for his woman’s needs would find himself alone sooner rather than later.
In his words: “money makes everything beautiful, including love,”
Read Chris-Vincent’s full post below…
Money and Relationships: A Follow Up on Kofi Asamoah’s Marriage Material Video
My friend, Kofi Asamoah of KOFAS Media, recorded a video lambasting broke men who are constantly in search for marriage material women—claiming that every woman is capable of becoming a marriage material if there’s money in the equation.
He argued, inter alia that, if you give a Ghanaian woman 5,000 GHS for a weekend treat, she would suddenly become whatever you want—a marriage material.
Since posting Kofi Asamoah’s video on my Facebook, there has been a lot of agreement and disagreement. Interestingly, almost all the women seem to agree with him on the notion that money is important in a relationship while the men are somewhat upset, saying his message is stupid.
This brings me to the question: is money really important in a relationship?
Money, many would say is the root of evil, but undeniably, it’s also a catalyst to achieving happiness and making anything happen in this world.
The importance of money in a relationship should not be undermined by any man or a woman. Anyone who is of the notion that money doesn’t change people or alter the direction of a relationship is either naïve or deluded.
Of course, not every woman is “money conscious”. But every woman has needs and money is that one material capable of solving almost 98 percent of the needs of human beings.
My wife is not a money person. She is perhaps so because she has a few needs and there’s enough money to take care of her needs. Knowing that something is available whenever you may need it somehow makes you not worry and kills the demand for it.
For instance, when my wife relocated to the United Kingdom, I didn’t want her coming to ask me for everything she needed to buy so I made her a second card holder on one of my Credit Cards and then set up a direct debit to pay off in full whatever amount she used each month on the card.
She hardly spent more than 100 pounds per month on that card. She didn’t have a need for money—and even if she did, just knowing that you are holding a card with thousands of pounds on there and you are allowed to use it however you want it was enough solution to the human want.
I will say my marriage has been beautiful and we’ve enjoy ourselves a lot, with several travels around the world. Some of these travels are paid for by me and others paid by some of my rich friends. What is certain is, these things have been possible largely because of money. My wife moving to the UK was possible because of money.
So any man who sincerely believes money is not a strong tool to making women happy or getting even non-marriage material women to become marriage materials, even if temporary, does not know what he is talking about.
Money makes everything beautiful, including love.
We have women who are unreasonably demanding. Those women are not what we should use as a bench mark in our assessment.
But if you take even reasonable and down to earth women, money is still important in “entertaining” them and importantly in maintaining them or providing for them and any family that would be made out of a relationship.
Without money, how are you going to pay for a date night or even buy her some seductive underwear?
The role money plays in relationships cannot be ignored even by the idealist.
Therefore, if you are a man in search for a marriage material, make sure you have at least a good bank balance and you are capable of showing the marriage material woman that you are also a man of substance, financially.
Talk is cheap: any real move that would indicate commitment, love, kind or pull in true happiness for a couple involves money—the amount, depends on what’s at stake or what’s to be achieved.
So the women are right on this one. Money is important in any relationship and if you are out there in search for a marriage material, make sure you have some money in your pocket if not for anything at all, to maintain that marriage material or convert a roaming material to a stable marriage material.
Money is a universal constant and if it’s missing, a relationship with suffer.
Don’t be fooled, the fluid concept of love alone is never enough—especially when it comes to human beings.
—Chris-Vincent Agyapong