What I am going to talk to you about is the truth which is obvious to some women and hidden from others. I know some people will not accept it or will argue against it.
It’s not my position or of any interest to me, to try and persuade any woman to make sense out of this—because it will certainly be of benefit to whoever carefully evaluates it and decides to apply it.
I have tried to hook one of my female friends to three different men in the last two weeks and astonishingly they’ve all raised the same issue with her.
They do not know her and therefore they cannot really comment on her character or intrinsic values as a woman. She is beautiful and that makes the initial catching of these men’s interest easy for me.
Any woman that’s easy on the eye makes a prima facie love interest case for herself. What follows, then determine whether that interest would linger on or not.
All the three men quickly checked-up this my female friend on Facebook and they all come back to me with the same concern, albeit differently expressed.
They said she writes too much on Facebook—I mean her social media activity is crazy.
I am a man and I also examined my wife’s facebook page when we first met. For her, in the last 8 years she has not posted more than 5 times on Facebook. I usually post stories/links on her Facebook for traffic, that’s all.
Even though I know why these men checked my friend’s social media account, I intentionally questioned them on why someone’s social media activities should matter in the pursuit of love.
The first man was blunt. He said something along this line: I am not looking for a woman that sits on social media 24/7, commenting unendingly and liking people’s posts. I want someone who makes good use of her time.
When he said so, I smiled—of course, he could not see it as we were chatting. He said he wanted some else, a person with little to no social media presence.
The other two men, all raised the same issue—that they wanted someone who is not “all over the place on social media.” Note that, I am using the phrase “all over the place” myself.
The men on here can comment on this, honestly. No man wants to seriously date a woman who sits on social media almost every day, writing, liking and videoing–gratuitously.
I have multiple online businesses which make us not less than 50,000 dollars in a year and therefore my online activities together with those I work with is somewhat justified. Even that, my wife still has some reservations which I have to always mitigate.
So if you are a woman who does not work online, you should try to limit your social media activities to a justifiable proportion—especially if you are single and wants a decent man to come your way.
I cannot tell you the exact reason why men, including myself, check this out when we meet someone and want to decide quickly on their personae.
Perhaps, the reason is ingrained in the notion that, persons who spend so much time on social media (not work related) have a lot of time on their hands (unworthy use of time) or have personal issues.
If you are a man reading this, let me know if you have the same sentiment. I am not a woman and I cannot tell you about what women check or look for.
So to the women, do you also check on the men you want to date’s social media activities—if you do, what for?