CHRIS-VINCENT Writes: When You Have No True Friends—the Poignant Lives of Ghanaian Celebrities

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Perhaps it’s a global issue: celebrities may seem to have everything or a lot more than the ordinary people, but they have a serious life-long deficiency—when it comes to those they can trust and call true friends.

Life without great relationships and friendships would mean little to nothing to a lot of us. Imagine you not having any strong connection with those you call friends—or in earnestness, you doubting yourself every day if those who hang out with you are truly your friends.

Over the years, I’ve come to realize a lot of our Ghanaian Celebrities have become attention seeking freaks, exigent for attention, especially on social media. It’s as if the LIKES they receive on social media somewhat turn to spendable cash in their bank accounts—as they’ve become extremely obsessed with this.

Ask yourself this: who are the true friends of your favourite Ghanaian celebrities? We’ve seen attempts by a few of them to hold together friendships which break down just as quickly as they are formed—mostly over absurd matters.

I’ve worked and been around several of these celebrities for so long to realize that, their biggest problem, probably an epidemic eating into their sanity daily is that, they lack genuine friends and have no proper relationships with anyone beyond their close family circles.

Of course, having your family around you is great. But family alone is not enough. There comes a time you’ll need friends—those who can look into your eyes and tell you the truth or those you can rely on for the sort of human validation that is so widespread among our celebrities.

A lot of these people have thousands or millions of followers on social media but the truth is, they are morbidly lonely. Beyond the quarters of ordinary friendships, it wouldn’t be contemptuous to mention that the love life of a lot of these celebrities is almost hopeless.

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It’s extremely agonizing, to watch from afar—and to be told about the sort of recluse lives a lot of our Ghanaian Celebrities live when you take social media out of the conversation. Thus, social media has become overly important to them, so much that their lives are literally tied to these internet platforms.

I have sat with a few Ghanaian Celebrities to see them count the number of LIKES and SHARES a post made by them on social media is receiving. A dinner or a timeout with many of them is mostly held hostage by their constant need to keep flipping their phones to check what their virtual friends or fans are saying about them.

I don’t probably need to mention to you how comments on social media cut deep into their throats. I used to find it ridiculous, perhaps even insane that anyone would be so much hurt by what a bunch of internet users think about him or her.

And then I realised it’s not that simple when it comes to these Celebrities. For all, they have as friends or people in their lives are the internet folks, and therefore, it cuts deep down their skin when these people fail to validate their actions or pour out disparaging comments about them.

In their growing efforts to amass more of these shadow friends and sought for cross-border validation, a lot of our Ghanaian Celebrities continue to invest monies they do not have in creating expensive online façade in a form of photo and video shoots.

Some even go as far as borrowing money to buy dresses, beg for tickets to events they are not invited and borrow outfits to wear to events, all so they can show up and take photos for their ‘invisible’ social media friends to comment.

Life is occasionally unpleasant and having friends to reassure you of a brighter tomorrow or to genuinely laugh with you and sometimes share your sorrow with you somewhat helps to lighten the burden. But when it comes to a lot of our Ghanaian Celebrities, they have to bear it all alone—Mr. Frodo Baggins sort of ring burden lingers around their neck.

Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri, Founding Editor
Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri is the Founding Editor of GhanaCelebrities.Com and AfricaCelebrities.Com a Film Critic and a Human Rights Advocate; he holds 2 masters degrees in Law; International Human Rights Law (LL.M) and Legal Practice Course (LL.M) from University of Leicester and Nottingham Law School--and also a degree in Law (LL.B) from University of East London. He's a Professional Truth Sayer and he is the author of the popular eBook “Success is a Right, Not A Privilege.” He currently works at Adukus Solicitors in London--where he uses his legal brains to kick real ass, for the good of clients and humanity. Contact: [email protected]