I often wonder how a guy/girl will be with someone for a very long time, they break-up and one marries another after a short period of dating (courting). I asked myself what he/she was ‘looking out for’ in the other person for so long and didn’t find it but quickly found it in another for half the period of time (he/she was with the other) with the now husband/wife…Then I got to know one thing…A good boyfriend/girlfriend does not necessarily mean he/she will be a good husband/wife.
When you meet someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, you don’t only look at what they are or what they’re doing today, but how their way of life is likely to turn out in the future. That’s what draws the line between the good boyfriend/girlfriend and the good husband/wife. We don’t concern ourselves about what potentially good husbands/wives do in the future but what they’re doing now. Sometimes (or all of the time), tomorrow does not take care of itself you know, we have to take care of it (even though it’s unseen).
It’s not to say that (all) girlfriends/boyfriends cannot be a good wives/husbands or we should be looking for potential husbands/wives in people we want to have a relationship with, but I believe that when we get to a certain age (if you intend to marry), you should be on the lookout for one who also wants the same thing as you. If it doesn’t work out that way or to the stage you wanted it to, at least you leave with something – a lesson!