My wife speaks Fante and her maiden name-Anthony-Williams somewhat suggests she is Fante but recently she told me she is from Ahanta or whatever—I don’t care, can’t be bothered and my family, even if they have a reservation about the tribe of others (which I am not aware) cannot have a say in who I choose to spend my life with.
I don’t even remember anyone asking me about where she’s from: I am the one making my life partner choice so who are you to tell me who to choose and who not to choose?
It’s interesting, perhaps, sad that in this day and age, families continue to hold invisible grudges against certain groups of people—so much that, their young men and women suffer and are compelled to make difficult choices in life
I was with a Nigerian (though born in the UK) for about 4 years, dated a wonderful woman from Barbados and have been with women I don’t even know what tribe they belong to.
It’s interesting that some Ghanaian families will accept a white person, a person they have nothing in common with, but would never accept another Ghanaian, just because the person belongs to a different tribe.
The attached screenshots are from a conversation I just had with a young woman who wants me to help her find a suitable partner through my effective hook-up service. I am making this post with her permission.
And it’s obvious that she does not, in particular, have a problem with Ewes or the people of Ada and has probably not had any bad experience with these tribes, but her family has placed a vicious sanction on dating any person from these two groups.
Now, she is forced to eliminate anyone from these tribes, irrespective of how compatible or lovely the person would be—and focus on some other tribes, in search for a life partner.
So who did this to us?
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