As Ghanaians, so many things seem foreign to us (when the situation fits). We have occasions where relatives as well as friends living far and near are supposed to register their presence to make the occasion grand (unless you’re living abroad), notable among them are marriages and deaths.

When a man is insists (not proposing) on marrying secretly, it puts a question mark on the marriage and the credibility of the person. It makes matters worse when the man is not giving any tangible reason as why he ‘doesn’t want people in our business’. It becomes more confusing if the man is swearing heaven and earth that he’s not married (already). So why does he want marry in secret?

If he’s worried about money issues (which is not an excuse anyway), who says it’s compulsory to spend big on marriage. They can even marry and feed the guest with chicken drumstick and a can of coke as far as they’re surrounded with well-wishers and their loved ones. On a lighter note, the man is not even a celebrity who wants to swerve the media. At least, when the woman is told what’s up, she will/may see reason, but if anything at all…..

Or it’s an issue of bitter exes who feels cheated because they have been overlooked and he fears they may (will) cause confusion and disrupt the marriage? That should not be a hindrance to a lady’s happiness. If a boy lived carelessly and thought he was living the good life amassing women and maybe recklessly promising them marriage to keep them exactly where he wants them, why should an innocent woman suffer for someone else’s action?

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