When a relationship breaks down, many people tend to rush out one door and through another—often under the guise of ‘showing the other person they’ve moved on’. They also use that tactic to quickly get their mind off their failed relationship. While it might be well-intended, rushing back through that dating scene door is often just an invitation for (another) disaster.
There is a vast difference between socializing with friends or taking up new interests to fill a void in one’s life after a break up, and actively seeking a new relationship. People complain about being treated badly or unfairly in almost if not all their relationships so shy away from it all together.
What they sometimes fail to accept as the truth is that they might be the problem and not the other person. If your relationships keep flopping due to the same issues you had in your previous relationships, then it is time to clean up and sort yourself out…
You have to know how to be with yourself before you can be with anyone else. There is great personal power in taking time out to be single on purpose. When you go from relationship to relationship, often without healing, you are not taking the time to learn from the mistakes you made in the previous relationship.
We then go forward, attempting to live, love and date with a list of qualities that we’re looking for without realizing that we are none of those things on the list. Feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, regret, or the fear of being vulnerable are common issues that should be addressed before a new relationship begins. Too often delving into and resolving these issues take the backseat, when in reality, they should be the focus of your personal healing.