THE BIG QUESTION: Would You Tell Your Partner That You Cheated?21 Comments

GC Staff
Posted on 24 Sep 2012 at 6:19pm

A magazine article on cheating in relationships reminded me of a conversation with a friend as she shared her experiences on the matter.

She had been dating her boyfriend for four months when one day he called her on phone and told her that he had kissed another woman, not once or twice but on three different occasions. She just couldn’t get over it and had to end the relationship with the guy. According to her, she would have preferred to be kept in the dark because ignorance is bliss.

This got me wondering whether I would want to be told that I had been cheated on or whether I would tell my partner that I cheated on him.  Coming forward may have positive or negative outcomes.

The positive being that after the shock and pain, the fact that the guilty party came clean may strengthen the relationship and the negative being that the relationship may come to a bitter end.

I personally would want to be told when I’m being cheated on and I would definitely come clean if I’m guilty of the “crime.” I know of a few couples whose relationships were better off after one partner cheated because it served as a wakeup call to the other partners. This helped them see what wasn’t working, and gave them a means to make their bond even stronger and better than it was prior to the infidelity.

So what about you? Would you tell your partner that you cheated on him/her? Or, if your partner cheated on you, would you want them to tell you? And if they told you they had cheated, what would you do?




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  • 27calibre (O_0)

    hmmmm i think !!!!!!!!!!!!

    i dont cheat so ???

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), Eiiii…lol!Calibre we dont need you to praise urself..Pls. let a sister do it..LOL!!

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Adjoa Nbaaso), look at my face and tell me if even a girl will like to cheat with me ?(:

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    @27calibre (O_0), ahahaha..Dem no want no scary face(no shakazulu).And I know thats not u.

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  • Dr. Miyagi

    Honesty, open communication is extremely important in a relationship there is no exception. This really is a delicate subject I have known good and bad cases on both sides of this arguement so I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer. Some things get out no matter how much people think they won’t so by hearing the truth on the rumour mil a cheated partner may be less inclined to continue the relationship thereafter. But then I also know people who have fessed up and that has been the end of the relationship. As ever iy really is a case of “if you can’t do the time don’t dothe crime” cheating is no good for anyone so just don’t go there. After that if you have well than you need to weigh up your conscience, guilt and thoughts of future. Whatever someone decides at that point will have a major impact on the relationship. I have not been in that situation before but “incase” I cheated or so than my partner has got all the right to know atleast then you might have a chance of repairing the relationship.cause if she hears it somewhere than its definitely GAME OVER I believe honesty, truth and communication is the best key to a succesful relationship/marriage I would like to add this to it as well and that’s question to all the ladies “why do you think some man cheat?”, is itt because of the lack of attention you give us men or what?and do you consider a kiss to another girl as a cheat as well?

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, i can see you will cheat paaa

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Really what makes you say that?@27calibre (O_0),

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, i see it from your comment lol….

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Lol hahah you got that wrong I wasn’t talking about me I don’t see any point of cheating bro, what will I gain from it nothing at all. Why eat from two plates while you can eat from just 1 which is your favourite dish to me girls are like virus so its better to stick to one than to go after many@27calibre (O_0),

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, ahaha i was kidding and you know,but those who cheat have a strong heart,dont they feel guilty when they come back and tell their girl friend or husband they love them?

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Hahahaha you got me there hahaha believe me they got it but what I don’t understand is why most girls think that all men are cheats is it writting in our faces or what now days if you talk to a girl on a friendship base they start attacking you just like that for being a player and all that I mean is it our fault that someone else decided to use them or what and trying to box all men into the same corner@27calibre (O_0),

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, all i can say is all men are not the same lol(:

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Exactly my point when yoU mention that to them than, the conversation turns into world war 3@27calibre (O_0),

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, ahaha

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  • Frog

    What u don’t know cant really hurt u.What is the point in telling my partner abt a fling for which I know it will never happen again?Some things are better left alone in the dark.If u tell her and after much pleading and groveling on the floor for forgiveness and she forgives u,she always remind u of it from time to time and might even use it as a bargaining tool at some point in the relationship.Then u will feel trapped

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    You sound like u been there before@Frog,

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    Frog Reply:

    @Dr. Miyagi, 3y3 nsem piiii

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    I understand where your coming from sis, its always the innocent ones that go through things like@Frog,

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  • RocklynLove

    If u dont wanna lose him/her den better keep it secret…………..

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    27calibre (O_0) Reply:

    @RocklynLove, only the gods know what you having keeping secretly (:

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  • sarah

    i will never tell the truth call me bad but if you regret it and it happened once i wont say it and if i do it continuesly i will break up the relationship

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