A lady friend to you is a friendly friend, an unfriendly friend or a very friendly enemy. Majority of women have turned themselves into busy bodies bashing their fellow woman because of one thing or the other.

A lady with her face full of pancake with all the ‘fake’ trimmings will bash another lady whose pancake is not even half-thick of what she has on her face and she’ll point a finger and say ‘…..and this one too a man will go and chase her – fake from head to toe’ – sometimes you have the urge to scream ‘but you look faker than her’; but just shrug it off as a double standard thing.

I don’t know when teams were formed for women with natural hair, women who do/don’t use make-up, weave and then the latest #team short hair rocks#. The ‘team’ that I find quite annoying are the ‘natural hair/short hair rocks’. These are women who either in their weave-on journey, encountered Mr bald patches along the way and had no option than to chop the little hair on their head Or they run out of ‘sponsors’ to buy them their expensive weaves or the economy is affecting their pockets badly and decided to call it a day.

These particular women turn around and bash women with weaves like they’re using their money to ‘beautify’ themselves. The ones with the short natural hair that just refuses to grow (and these ladies don’t want to accept that fact that they don’t have long hair in their genes) will make so much noise that when you cut your hair, they ask why!

If you don’t wear make-up, don’t bash people who do. If you like wearing makeup, wear makeup. If you don’t like wearing makeup, don’t wear it. If it’s not your face makeup is being applied (or not applied) to, zip it. Not wearing make-up does not make you absolutely perfect because you are so proud of your appearance. Wearing make-up does not mean you have low self-esteem or make you look ‘hotter’ than someone else. If I advertise for dulux paint on my face or I make cosmetic companies lose money because I don’t patronise their stuff – let me be.

As women, we love to chat about people but don’t condemn what someone else is doing if you’re doing the same or even worst. You can be let off lightly if you’re not doing the same. We just need to stop ‘belittling’ other women with that “proud to be natural” attitude. If circumstances did not force you to change your preference, you’ll still be an advocate for ‘fake and proud’. I don’t need you to tell me that I look better ‘all-natural’, bare-faced, painted face, weave, curly, braids…whatever. Everyone can’t expect every woman to be the same.

I rock, you rock and we all rock – in our individual minds!